Our Adoption Story
We are the Krzesinski family and we have adopted 4 (almost 5) kiddos. Our journey to adoption was long but the short of it is we felt called to adopt and thought God was calling us to international adoption. The one thing we were sure of was that we did NOT want to be foster parents because we felt that we could not handle the heartbreak of falling in love with a child and then having to say goodbye. Funny thing is that through a lot of prayer both Rachel and I felt called specifically to become foster/adoptive parents locally. We can’t explain it other than through prayer and reading God’s word we both separately felt compelled that God wanted us to make a difference for His Kingdom locally. And that was 6 years ago. We have had a total of 7 kids come and go and 5 come and stay. Saying goodbye to those kids that you have fallen in love with and they with you, is still hard but God didn’t call us to the easy life but rather a life that points to Him and gives Him honor and glory.
What has been a joy related to adoption?
The joy of adoption is undoubtedly seeing God do what He does best. Giving you more grace, more love and more room in your heart when you felt like you had no more to give. It is seeing your family being stretched and molded into something amazing. Seeing our faith and our kid’s faith grow is something I am so grateful for.
What has been a challenge related to adoption?
The hardest part is trusting in His perfect timing. We all like to say that we trust God but when you are holding onto a dream of adopting a child it can get hard. Doubt can creep in and if we aren’t careful we can become impatient.
What is one piece of advice you would give families who are considering adoption?
Our advice is to pray about it.
Layla Krzesinska’s Story (12 years old)
My name is Layla Krzesińska. I have three biological siblings four adopted siblings and one foster brother that my family is in the process of adopting. That makes 9 kids in all. My family has been a foster family since I was six and now I’m twelve. Why we became a foster and then an adoptive family? Well, the most important reason is found in James 1:27. We are all called to care for the orphans and widows. God wants us as the church to care for those who have no one. I think that is pretty amazing that God is looking out for everyone. Our gotcha day was different then we imagined because of Covid, we had an online zoom court hearing but it was still pretty amazing. Family and friends joined us online to celebrate. Family came in from out of town and we had a fun time. My brother, Eli, and I even wrote a song for our new siblings and we sang it to them during our celebration.
The joy related to adopting would be that I’m rarely ever bored. The biggest challenge would be the expectancy for the adoption to be finalized. It can be really hard to be patient and wait on God’s timing.
My advice is if you have thought about adoption, then never stop praying. I have learned this personally especially with my youngest sibling. He came to our home when he was 4 days old and we wanted to adopt him but for a time it looked like maybe God’s plan was different so we prayed as a family. We prayed for God’s best. Not our will or what we wished His will was but we prayed for His protection and His best. His answer didn’t come right away and it was really hard but my mom and dad kept saying that it is during the hard times that our faith can shine the brightest and so through many tears we kept praying and eventually God answered! We have officially been matched as his adoptive and forever family.